"You've really helped me make a difference in my life, and I'm very grateful for that."
Kevin*, age 26, gay businessman
"Thank you for your warmth, compassion, kindness, insights, advice.... It's been a long, tough 'haul'...and now, I've finally done it."
Sandy*, age 35, widow
Thank you for all your support.
"Your help made me a better person."
Rose*, age 54, administrative assistant
"Please know that in our few times together you were able to help me focus on a different perspective and get my act together. Thanks again."
Gloria*, age 63, recently widowed
"Thanks so much for being there for me thru sadness, heartache, disappointment, learning, exploring, giving, accepting, and loving myself and others..."
Laura* age 45, university department chair
"You are largely responsible for helping me to feel happier, better about myself, and more positive about the future! I feel that I have more courage to take risks.... God bless you...."
Gary*, age 32, teacher, husband and father
"You have a wonderful gift of understanding and helping those who are struggling.
You helped me move on to a new and happier place."
Pat*, age 24, full-time college student
"I owe so much to you. I don't ever know how to thank you. You gave me tools for living and taught me how to use them. I will be grateful to you for the rest of my life."
Maria* (age 33), social worker
"Devin [age 4] is doing great at school and at home. Did you ever stop and consider the effect that you (your work with me) has had on his life? There is no doubt in my mind that the quality of his life (and mine, of course) has been enhanced and enriched by the fact that you are who you are and you 'treated' me the way you did."
Tamara*, age 37, teacher and single mother
Letters from Clients About Couples and Family Therapy
"We haven't been back because we haven't felt a need to. Things have been much better.... Thank you for all of your help...."
Dave* and Peggy*, married 12 years
"Thank you for all the support, patience, and practical help you've given me...."
Karen*, married 17 years, mother of 3 children, ages 8, 12, and 15
"Our lives are good. The skills you helped us find are put to good use on a daily basis.... We are forever grateful for your wisdom and insight as we went through that thorny patch in our life. The briars and brambles still show up along the way, but now we know what to do with them, thanks to you."
Claire* and Gordon*, married 20 years, parents of a five year old
"Things are going well with Paul and I think I see things for what they really are. We talk everything out, even when it is scary to take the risk. The rewards of doing and seeing things [this] way are difficult to put into words. I am happy and feel peaceful. Although I know things will never be perfect and there will always be issues to work on and work out. I want to do it with Paul. Thank you for being there, being patient, pushing me when I needed to be pushed, validating me and reassuring me that things would get better one day."
Sharon*, engaged to be married
* — Names have been changed to protect confidentialty.
“There is no coming to heaven with dry eyes.”